When You Just Can’t…

There are days I think to myself I “just can’t.”

I just can’t be patient.

I just can’t deal with any more whining.

I just can’t discipline with love.

I just can’t hold my tongue.

I just can’t sweep…again.

I just can’t break up that quarrel…again.

The list goes on and I just can’t…

It is days such as these when we feel like outsourcing is best. In that state of failure, we obviously don’t feel fit for the task.  It is easy to think our kids would be better off. They would learn more patience from someone else. They would learn better sharing skills somewhere else. They would not be the victim of my harsh tone if they had someone else.

Someone else needs to do this, because I just can’t.

It is at the intersection of failure and “I just can’t” that I usually find the greatest encouragement in motherhood.

The same philosophy that people apply to working out, or chasing a dream, or building a financial empire — Moms can apply that motivation to teaching, training, loving and raising their children.

We are always looking for our best selves somewhere else other than motherhood. If we had a different perspective, maybe this will be the best Mom year ever.  How can we change that perspective?

When your mind is tempted to say “I just can’t.” Stop right there.

You CAN deal with the whining.

You CAN slow down and correct with patience.

You CAN pick up those crumbs…likely later…but you can.

You CAN say nothing.

You CAN find the right words at the right time.

Just like that work out plan, or saving money each month, or trying again after any failure…IT IS HARD. But there is no clause that states you have to be the perfect Mom in order to reign in motherhood. Success is when you look your mom failure in the eye, repent and move forward. Motherhood is similar to any other situation where you see grand glimpses of success in the midst of frustrations, heartache, pain, and even tears. A lot of it is mental fortitude. Nothing in life comes easy and we shouldn’t assume motherhood is different.

Yesterday, I had one of those days when it’s easy to think “I just can’t.” 8 kids still 10 and under, pregnant, homeschooling, changes in our family every day — I laugh a lot with God. Sometimes I am sure He has me set up for failure, but that is never the case.  God shows me I can and I know I CAN because He doesn’t say “Johnna, do, do do.” He says “Johnna, be, be, be.”

Gal 2:20 “It is no longer I who live but Christ who lives in me.”

Lamentations 3:22-23 “Because of the Lord’s great love we are not consumed, for his compassions never fail. They are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

With All My Love,



One Response

  1. Tiana Massaquoi

    What a beautiful and honest reflection. One days I can, I look back at the one set of footprints in the sand, as corny as it sounds. I praise The Most High for you, Drexel, and all those beautiful babies. One day at a time, one moment, one breath…God is always faithful! 🖤

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