Why Another Baby is Always a Blessing

I have hesitated to write and publish this post. I said I would do it when we first announced our 7th pregnancy. However, over time I realized that this season of life was reminding me whether my beliefs hold fast even after the initial feeling fades.

With that being said, when I say “another baby is always a blessing…” and that the “fruit of the womb a reward,” there may be different audiences that this post upsets, encourages or even convicts. I do understand the sensitivity of this topic and I write to share our family’s journey where faith intersects parenting. I pray that grace will abound even as you read this.

I am 32 weeks pregnant and beyond thankful to be healthy and carrying a healthy baby. Throughout this pregnancy we have faced more than our fair share of major life changes. The day before I found out I was pregnant, we committed to a Pastoral Internship for Drexel at our church.  The next day we were of course excited to be pregnant, but couldn’t quite fathom how the year would even unfold. In the months of March and April, Drexel reduced his work load at one job, took on a new job from home, started at the church and plugged away at full-time Seminary. Meanwhile, in the first trimester of my pregnancy, we moved out of our house, started running an AirBnb and then moved again.

The stomach bug swept through our entire family twice this year and we typically never get sick. In the face of discomfort and uncertainty, we definitely questioned our decisions and looked for any regret. None was found. Instead, we saw God’s mighty hand at work in our lives and those around us. During those times of being knee deep in puke covered sheets, I asked myself, “Would this feel any easier if I wasn’t pregnant? Is another baby always a blessing? Even right now?”

The beauty of Scripture is that it is true and rings true, even when my feelings don’t match. “Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward.” Psalm 127:3

I want to make it clear that I didn’t do anything to deserve the blessing of another child. I didn’t pray harder or conjure up some level of righteousness. No. In the Lord’s kindness and wisdom He saw fit to entrust us with a tiny little life. That alone is something neither of us take lightly and I don’t want it to seem like we are in control. I have walked with many women through fertility struggles, miscarriages and even losing young children. From the outside looking in you might see me and think, “Oh, it must be so easy for her to get pregnant and she just doesn’t understand.” If I haven’t walked through your exact trial, mine come in other ways and I do my best to understand the emotional weight of suffering whether it is related to marriage, babies or everyday struggles. We are all fighting battles and they look different for every individual.

What we might call our “philosophy of more babies” has definitely evolved over the years. We have walked through surprises, wondering, and thinking we might be done when God had other plans. Our faith and marriage has been tested in this area of growing or not growing our family and we continue to get the question, “So how many are you going to have?”

The depths of this question no longer offend us. We see the answer as an opportunity to glorify God and the way He has shaped our lives over 10 years of marriage. We have no “number” in mind. We have taken each season of pregnancy, postpartum, birth control options and the numerous other factors of life — then surrendered them together in prayer before the Lord. God is good about giving clarity when we have none and ask for it. Each answer over the months, years and major life changes has looked different.

However, the resounding answer we have experienced is that “another baby is always a blessing.”

The way we must change our perspective is in the word blessing. I have been studying the Sermon on the Mount and to be blessed looks entirely different than what our culture tells us. To be blessed does not mean it will feel easy. It does not mean your finances line up exactly like you think they should. It does not mean you can have it all and do it all — whatever “it all” is in your mind. There will likely be sacrifices and challenges, but the beautiful blessing of children will always surface in the midst of whatever you’re facing. God’s Word is true and alive, even when we don’t feel like believing it. We can believe it and then trust that our feelings will be shaped by truth and not lies.

“Well what about money? Or that you have enough on your plate? How will you send them to college {the one we smirk at the most}? How will you love a 7th, or 8th, or 9th?”

When we had one kid I didn’t think I could love a second. Then the Lord met me with more love for the 2nd child than I thought was possible.
When we had two little boys and moved cross country, I didn’t know how my body would handle a third baby while moving. Our only girl was and is a reminder of God’s sufficiency to us.
When we had three littles, I wasn’t ready for a fourth. But God saw differently, and our fourth child worked in our lives in a mighty way.
When we had four littles, a fifth seemed fun — but not ideal. Our fifth child helped me keep my faith when I felt like everything around me was falling apart.
When we had five, six seemed silly. But God showed us that our idea of silly is actually a slap in the face of His serious care and provision (which we had already experienced time after time).
And now we prepare for baby number seven. We can’t wait to share how this child’s story and name are coming together!

We have learned not to question how God will meet our needs or show us His faithfulness. When our feelings aren’t matching up to the truth that “another baby is always a blessing” we look for lies that are creeping in. Knowing the truth helps us process where we are not trusting God to provide, protect and strengthen us for whatever He calls us to. The Lord has never left us, especially in this season of parenting, and for that we are abundantly grateful.

I can not tell you God’s plan for your family size, but I can tell you that God’s way is always best. He considers the details you can not fathom and sees well beyond your existence. Is it true to say “I can’t handle anything else,” from the Giver of all good gifts? (James 1:17) Or to think we can save better than the One who holds all things in his mighty hands? (Matthew 10:25-33) Let us humbly submit our plans before the Creator of the universe, who orchestrates the entire world (Matthew 10:30). In the midst of what often appear necessary and practical considerations, our family has seen God work in a much more real and intimate way. We have learned it best to take these thoughts captive and process them through the filter of Scripture and prayer.

Depending on where God has you right now, we can only encourage you to put your eyes up and ask Him to show you His perfect plan for your family, trusting that He keeps his promises and “is able to do far more abundantly than all that we ask or think according to the power at work within us…” This might look different for every single family, but by His grace, it will be better than you ever imagined.

“To him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, forever and ever.” Ephesians 3:20-21

With Love,

Johnna

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