Two Hard Truths for a Woman Wanting Answers

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I had a phone call with a new friend last night looking for some input on parenting her two little boys. We chatted for nearly an hour and at the end of it she said “Can you just write some of that up in a blog post?” It was a genuine and sweet request for practical tips to keep our daily lives running in the right direction. My response was that I haven’t been blogging recently because I feel like I am adding noise to an already crazy and loud world. I would rather keep my words few and far between in an effort to be most helpful to women. We have to process enough junk and I really don’t want to produce more junk for you to sift through.

After a month of guests and traveling, and new pregnancy (eek, yay, fun story)…I definitely want to share the request for my daily/weekly schedule, but I think there is something bigger I mention first.

I am finding more and more that true biblical womanhood is viciously under attack. In an effort to confuse women, the enemy has left women wandering about all over the world, then still coming up empty. Women are looking for answers about what does it look like to be fulfilled, to balance all the demands, to enjoy this life, to have peace, hope, relationships and more. Christian women are looking just as hard, what does it look like to glorify God as a woman? They are looking to the church and not getting it. They are looking to friends and getting mixed signals. And they are looking to the internet where there is a vast array of information, sometimes helpful and sometimes not.

So what does it look like to glorify God as a woman?

Well, there isn’t one clear cut answer. But there are many truths that will guide you, and these first two are pretty helpful.

  1. If you are a Christian, Christ says, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” Matthew 16:24
    Deny yourself. Do we know how to do that? How often do you tell yourself no? That basic truth can help us walk through a zillion situations where one choice will glorify God more than the other.
    I really just want some time to myself so I will stay up late. Deny yourself…go to bed with your husband so you won’t feel horrible in the morning.
    I am so tired this morning, I just can’t get out of bed before the kids. Deny yourself…pray for renewed energy and resolve to do the next thing well…get out of bed.
    I really deserve a new pair of shoes. Deny yourself…look in your closet, do you really need them right now? Then proceed more slowly.
    When your husband asks for dinner after you just sat down at the end of the day. Deny yourself…resist the urge to grumble.
    It’s really not right that (he, she, they, x, y, z) does/gets/etc. Deny yourself that thought.
    I could keep going.
    If you have been getting everything you want and never learned to deny yourself, then I might challenge you with “Are you really following Christ?” He said, “If anyone would come after me, let him deny himself and take up his cross and follow me.” Don’t get me wrong, it doesn’t mean you will never get what you want, but as women that will likely mean a lot of times you will get what you need, not what you thought you wanted. Also, it is not a license to get walked over or be a “yes man.” Boundaries are essential, but we must first be aware of our inclination to be selfish.
  2. Love what God loves and hate what He hates. Well, what does God love? And what does God hate? As much as I want to list that for you, I will just tell you the only place you can truly learn and grow in knowing these things. Reading your Bible. I know sweet and sincere Christian woman wanting to do the right thing and follow God, but they are not reading their Bible. They are reading books and all types of blogs/websites, but not sitting down and opening up their Bibles. Oftentimes we rely on ‘experts’ for biblical understanding, but we must go to the source ourselves so we can learn and decipher truth from lies. Titus 2 tells us we have to train the younger women. None of this comes naturally. We have to point women back to the Word, help them get in it, hold them accountable and walk alongside them as the Word is ruffling their feathers.

If you read your Bible for 15 minutes each day, you will easily know more about what God loves and what He hates then you did before that day. Then as you face your choices all day, you will be able to play out “loving what He loves and hating what He hates.”

All this sounds fine and dandy, but I will tell you it’s definitely not for the faint of heart. It’s much easier to live for ourselves and listen to the world. I promise, I am in the fight with you. It is rich and rewarding, everything in between…but you didn’t ask me that, you asked me “What does it look like to glorify God as a woman?” Thankfully, we are not left to navigate these choices by ourselves. If you are a Christian, you have the Holy Spirit and you are able to call on the Helper 24/7. You are not alone. If you wonder if you have the Holy Spirit’s help — test yourself to see if you are of the faith. There is no shame in examining to see where or what you have placed your faith in.

“Examine yourselves, to see whether you are in the faith. Test yourselves. Or do you not realize this about yourselves, that Jesus Christ is in you?—unless indeed you fail to meet the test!” 2 Corinthians 13:5

Definitely some tough love in my first blog post back. But I share because I love you and want you to know God and walk with God. I don’t want to give you some sugar-coated truth that only gets you motivated for the next day. True and lasting change that glorifies God is only found in Christ and He is able to radically help you live for Him.

Praying you have a wonderful weekend loving and living for God!

With All My Love,



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